Thanksgiving is about family, tradition, and turkey. Friendsgiving? That’s where things get fun. It’s the unofficial holiday where chosen family gathers, the dress code is whatever you want it to be, and the vibe is less “table for twelve” and more “come as you are.”
Whether you’re a first-time host or a seasoned gatherer of friends, here’s your guide to throwing a Friendsgiving that feels festive, meaningful, and perfectly your style.
The Cardinal Rule of Friendsgiving is that you don’t need fine china or a sprawling dining room. What you do, however, need is a warm, inviting space where people feel comfortable. Light a few unscented candles. Use string lights instead of overheads for that soft, cozy glow. And music matters, too. Create a playlist that starts mellow, builds a little energy mid-meal, and winds down into relaxed grooves. Think acoustic, indie pop, or jazz. It’s all about atmosphere.
Ditch the pressure of perfection. Mix and match the plates. And the glasses. Use linen or even paper napkins and tuck in a sprig of rosemary or eucalyptus. Scatter mini pumpkins, pomegranates, or fresh herbs across the table as a natural centerpiece. These are the laid-back elements of a true Friendsgiving.
This pseudo holiday was practically made for potlucks. But rather than leaving it to chance (and ending up with five pumpkin pies and no side dishes), ask your invitees to bring something specific. Whether it’s a main, side, dessert, or drink, most people won’t mind the request at all. And experiment. Incorporate a family recipe with a twist, try out an international comfort food, or mix a killer, never-before-made cocktail batch. Friendsgiving is the perfect space for a little culinary creativity.
And don’t apologize for the imperfect. The stuffing might be dry. The timing might be off. Someone will definitely forget to bring what they promised. And none of it will matter. What your friends will remember is the warmth of your home, the laughter around the table, and the camaraderie. After all, that’s what friends are for…
